Dear Single Lady…

Come! Let us reason together.
This thing called marriage is a union of two people, united in likeness and by agreement, who know what they want and where they are going. There’s no magic about the workings of marital institution.

It is true that God favours men and settles them beyond what they can ask or think; we can rest in that knowledge and have peace. But it’s also true that God is just – every man according to his works.

Listen to this: the Lord will not give a good man to a bad woman in the name of trying to favour the woman. Vice versa. That woman will run the destiny of the gentleman aground. That’s not just.

When you pray to the Lord to give you a certain kind of partner, but your lifestyle continually invites a completely different kind of partner; already, there’s no agreement between your bearings and your prayers.

It’s important that you’re not the wrong woman praying for a right man, and not the bad woman praying for a good man. Put yourself in the right heart and what’s of that likeness will find you. Basically, you attract who you are.

There’s a dearth of good men out there. Delusion is when you, who’s a disaster in character and unwilling to repent, believe the Lord will surrender to your hands a good man to dismember simply because you prayed for marital favour. Favour doesn’t work that way, beloved. Neither does justice.

Marital favour, in this context, means finding the likeness of you who will agree with, and walk with you, not finding a good person who will agree to be destroyed by you.

Become the right one and you’ll find the right one. Remain a disaster and good men will be far from you. Some prayers have remain unanswered because hearts have remained unbroken before the Lord. Perhaps, the Lord didn’t forget you. Maybe He’s waiting for you to become the likeness of the kind of partner you’re praying for.

Grace to you.