Dear young lady,

It’s a beautiful thing to be on fire for God, especially while you’re still single. You’re always burning, tonguing and raring to go; coupled with an envious sensitivity to the voice of the Lord, this seems like a healthy sign of consistent growth and laser focus on the purpose the Master has set before you.

However, there’s a familiar thing you must avoid. Many who’ve gone ahead of you have fallen in and crashed purpose. It may be a propelling leap when handled properly, but can be a grave where destinies are buried. That thing is called marriage.

Marriage is not the fulfillment of destiny. It’s not about marrying the wrong man (that’s not the purpose of this post). The point is your mindset about marriage. Don’t make the mistake of seeing marriage as the fulfillment of destiny; it’s just one very important plan in the journey of destiny and can very well determine its course.

There are so many Deborah’s who have abandoned the bigger picture and settled for marriage alone. The moment they get married, everything about the call of God; the fire of yesteryears and the zeal and passion for the things of God comes to a steady end. This is because they believe they’ve arrived in life, and are now eating the fruits of their labour of prayer and service to God.

Marriage is meant to be a blessing, and not the channel through which the enemy or yourself truncates your God-given destiny. This explains why many are still waiting for life partners till date; because even the Lord knows the moment they get married, they are resigning from the Kingdom mandate. If Esther had rested, there would be no one close enough to intercede before King Ahaserus for the liberation of the Jews.

There’s virtue in becoming a wife. But don’t settle and rest in that position when the Lord has called you to a bigger mandate. Pick up your cross and keep following the Master; this time, along with your partner.

Grace to you.